Many people form relationships during college, meeting like-minded people who have gone through the experience with them. Graduating from college is both a terrifying and an amazing time, you’ll be going out into the world, finding a job, and figuring out where you want your life to go. However, what does that mean for you and your other half? If you’re already engaged, how long should you wait before getting married?
Figure out your priorities first
If you’re fresh from graduating, or it’s on the horizon, then things are going to change drastically over the next few months, so it means you’re going to have to prioritize what your plans are going to be. You’ll need to ask yourself if you might want to wait before setting a date, while you both work out where you’re going to live, what jobs you’ll both be doing and what your salaries are going to be. You can hardly plan a wedding without knowing how much you’re both going to spend, or without knowing where you’re going to live. Of course, if marriage is high up on both your priority list and comes before all of those things, then there are a few things you can consider.
Decide how big your wedding is going to be
You can get married all but straight away if all you want to do is elope and get married intimately in a small ceremony with no one but your closest friends or family members. However, not everyone has that dream, which means it’ll take time and money; something most graduates just don’t seem to have. It’s important to remember that once you have both sorted those essential things out, nothing is holding you back; but you don’t want to take out loads of loans, get married, and find yourselves neck-deep in debt you may never pay back.
There’s no set time frame
There is no right or wrong when it comes to getting married, only you and your partner knows how each other feels. If you have got to the point where you’re engaged, then you should both be able to talk to each other about what you want and how you want to do it. Write a list of priorities together and work out how you’re going to do it. Be realistic about what you both want and how much money you’re going to have. If one of you is planning on living at home while the other moves state for a high-flying job, things probably aren’t going to go well in the wedding planning department. Of course, you may both be in tune with one another and come to the same conclusion.
The scientifically best age to marry
It seems that mathematicians have even discovered the statistically best age to marry, which happens to be between 28 and 32; however, this is based purely on marriage statistics. However, it’s worth considering that different factors drive different people to get married, and that no one has yet found the formula for love; meaning you two could well have something more unique than the relationships that didn’t work out. You’ll have to use your gut instinct; for example, if the focus for both of you is on family and settling down, you’ll be more inclined to marry sooner than if careers were more important.
There is no right or wrong when it comes to getting married after college, but it’s essential to make sure you’re being realistic about what you can achieve; make sure your big day is everything you want it to be.